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How Do You Treat Yourself?

4/27/2018

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​     Here's a truth:  Unless you truly love and respect yourself, it's very difficult to love and respect someone else, or for them to love and respect you.  
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     This seems to be especially true with many women who have suffered emotional wounds in childhood or in other relationships. They carry with them the belief they must perform, interact, or behave in a way that pleases their partner in a relationship.  Certainly, this happens for men as well.  

     When we sacrifice our own needs in order to gain approval or acceptance, we cannot become our true self.  Sometimes, this can be effective for a while, but eventually leads to burnout in the relationship.  
 
     If you do not love and care for yourself, no one on earth will ever be able to love you enough to fill that void. Eventually that inner being yearning to get their needs met, will let itself be heard.  Its voice is often manifested in destructive behaviors.  These can be directed towards the relationship or the self.  
 
     Reflect upon how you treat and speak to yourself. Great spiritual guidance states, “Love thy neighbor as yourself.”  Would your neighbors be happy if you treated them like you treat yourself?  
 
     Start to recognize the words you speak to yourself. Are they words you’d speak to a friend? What was the last special thing you did for yourself?  Make a commitment now to treat yourself well once per day.  Your relationship will benefit; you will benefit.  
 
     This special thing can be simple, cheap and easy. One thing I do between every session,  is rub a nice, organic lotion on my hands.  It’s a ritual that reminds me to care for myself and prepares me for the work I do with couples every day.  
 
    I love this great quote by Siddhartha Gautama, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  A version is even on the back of my business card:    
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     Kindly, 

     Allison 
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Teamwork is key

4/24/2018

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      Being on a team has lots of meanings.  These are the ones I think of:

     Being on a team means you have common goals.  Engage in a discussion with your partner about future goals.  There's almost nothing that connects us more than working together.  

     Being on a team means you listen to your team mates ideas and suggestions.  You can't always call the shots for everyone else.  

     Being on a team means you support your team mates.  You respect them.  You don't trash talk them.  Even if you disagree, you don't put it on display. 

     Hope this little video makes you chuckle. 



​What  does being on a team mean to you? Leave a comment below. 

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     Have questions?  Email me, I'd love to hear from you. 

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     The Coach's Corner is a great place to talk to me and others.  It's the private members area where you can have direct access to me.  

     Wishing you closeness, 

     
Allison 
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