Do you get jealous or irritated by your partner’s creative pursuits? How important is it to acknowledge, support and participate in our partner’s creativity?
It’s well established that creativity enriches our lives. Whether it’s a passion for theater, painting, dancing, etc., can you be supportive whether you are creative in these same ways or not?
If your partner finds meaning, joy and purpose in their creativity, showing interest in their endeavors helps them be seen and accepted by you and that is the best kind of love! Ask to see their work! Go see them perform! Encourage them!
Inviting someone into your creative world is an act of intimacy. How special if your partner shares this with you! Appreciate that they want you to see that part of themselves.
If your partner’s pursuits are not endangering your relationship, be willing to sacrifice so they may carry on. This love and support will come back to you.
The sacrifice may be time. It’s hard to give your partner up for the time it takes them to do their creative activity. However, pursuing things that bring us joy, makes us better people in the long run. These activities give us energy and well being to spill over into the other parts of our lives. You’re going to benefit from your partner’s greater joy!
The sacrifice might be helping to allow your partner the time. Doing tasks or occupying children to give them the space to do their art is support.
The sacrifice might be supplying them with a place or tools to do their art. Maybe sharing an office or making over a corner in the bedroom. Your partner is going to wonder what they did to deserve such a supportive partner!
Sometimes, we put aside our creative pursuits, especially when we’re in the limerence stage of a relationship. In the beginning, we don’t need anything other than our beloved to be fulfilled. It’s natural, after some time, we need more than our partner’s presence to fulfill us. Creative pursuits may have been paused. It isn’t a threat to your relationship when other things are needed.
Appreciating your partner for who they are, artist and all, is a precious gift. Your partner will adore you even more for honoring this integral part of them. Their own happiness and well being will be better off when they can engage in their creative pursuits. And who benefits from that? YOU!
If you don’t think you’re very creative, try to join in! Your partner may enjoy being your instructor and it may lead to a joint hobby you both can appreciate.