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What’s your body language saying?

7/24/2019

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     ​Experts say that 90% of communication is non verbal.  For instance, I had a nervous habit of giggling when I was anxious. ​Someone confronted me about being flippant about a serious topic and I went to work changing that habit.
 
         Some aspects of what we call body language are outlined below. This is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how we communicate though. 
 
1.  Eye Contact-Maintaining good eye contact is a great method of becoming engaged with the speaker.  It demonstrates focus and attentiveness to what is being spoken.  There are some cultural implications with direct eye contact (and you should always have awareness of these), but for most people looking into the eyes of another person most of the time is essential to making them feel heard.
 
2.  Smiling-In most cultures, a smile is a gesture of welcome and approval.  Smiling encourages the speaker to continue speaking (good goal!).  Conversely, frowning implies disapproval and should be avoided unless you are using this to accentuate a point.  For instance, you might be puzzled by conflicting information.  Displaying a frown while asking about this incongruence can accentuate the question about clarification.
 
3.  Gestures-A lot of people “speak with their hands”.  While this can be habitual, like saying umm, it is worthwhile to examine if you should tone down this particular habit.  It can be extremely distracting to the speaker.  Not to mention, some gesturing may be perceived as threatening.  If your partner feels intimidated by your gesturing, sit on your hands!
 
4.  Proxemics-Everyone has a different comfort level with how close you get to each other.  A good rule of thumb is at least 3 feet in distance.  You both should be able to reach out and grasp hands for a handshake comfortably.  Be mindful that different cultures have different concepts of appropriate proxemics. Your partner might be very comfortable to be close to you ordinarily, but in the heat of an argument, more distance might be called for.
 
5.  Touch-Touching your partner is an intimate interaction. The type, frequency and areas to be touched is highly personal. Discuss this with your partner. Touches can communicate affection or anger and the message is the one the receiver gets. If your partner tells you they don’t like a certain touch, don’t get upset, believe them!  
 
All these avenues of communication can help or hinder your connection. Winners examine their strategies and improve them.
 
Keep Being Lovely!
 
Allison 

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