If you'd rather read, this is the book chapter on this topic.  The book is available as part of the self coaching package or in the membership area. 

Chapter 12-Four Magic Moments

     What is the best time of the day to focus on your partner? Believe it or not, there are times that are more important than others. They’re called The Four Magic Moments. Even if you’re on this journey alone, you can use this to improve your relationship. 
 
     There are four times during the day when it’s important for couples to be focused on each other. It creates a consistent connection between you and your partner. It communicates respect, concern and interest, all important ingredients in a relationship.
 
          The four magic moments are:
     a.  The first four minutes you’re both awake in the morning
     b.  When you say goodbye
     c.  The first four minutes you’re both home in the evening
     d.  Saying good night
 
     I know that some of you work different schedules, don’t go to bed at the same time, one of you leaves before the other one is up, etc. If you have any situation which prevents you from these exact Magic Four Moments, you’ll have to substitute another consistent time that seems to fit. 
 
     Now notice the maximum requirement is four minutes. There’s not a huge amount of time to dedicate to this. Even if you’re busy doing laundry when your partner gets up, stop and give your attention to your partner. Ask them what their day looks like. You could cuddle in bed or on the couch.
     
     Why do you think these are Magic Moments? They signify transition times in the day. Remember when you were first falling in love? Your partner was on your mind the minute you woke up. You hated to see them leave you. You were excited to see them come back. You wanted them to dream about you when you fell asleep.  While it might be too much to ask for all that back again, The Four Magic Moments demonstrate giving priority to your partner.
 
     If you’re doing this program with your partner, then you can keep each other accountable. If you’re doing this alone, your partner may be skeptical about your interest all of a sudden. Soon they’ll look forward to it as well. 
 
     The Recap: 
 
1. Devote a consistent pattern of attention to your partner.  It conveys interest, respect and trust.
 
2. The Four Magic Moments are the most effective times of the day to give that attention. 
 
     Practice:
 
     Decide which Four Magic Moments will work for you. Challenge yourself to devote these moments to your partner. There’s a worksheet in your package to help you with this step. 
 
      Start today using these moments to grow your relationship. If you’re comfortable share this information with your partner and see if they are willing to take the challenge with you. 
 
     I am confident that you’ll have a positive change as a result.
                                                                             
     If you get stuck, send me an email at allison@allisonvelez.com and the website is www.WinningYourRelationshipGame.com.  The membership area is the best place to get help now and on an ongoing basis.