Gaining Trust With Your Partner

​In the Gottman method, they use the metaphor of a "Sound Relationship House". One of the walls that holds up the Sound Relationship House is trust. Without it, your relationship lacks strength. You and your partner can work to improve this area. 

Trust is really built in a million small ways every day, "small things often:. When partners make it a habit of paying attention in small, everyday situations, they build trust.
Dr. John Gottman suggests the following as ways to build that trust:
 
Cooking for your partner. (Bonus points if you cook their favorite! This shows attention, care, and nurturing.)
 
Taking care of them when they're sick. (We all want nurturance when we're sick. Usually we need support when we're sick, so this is a great time to enhance that trust, "I can depend on you".)
 
Listen to them. (Listening attentively is so valuable. We all want to be heard.)
 
Doing something kind for your partner's friends or family. (It's great if I can depend on you, but if my family can too? Wow!)
 
Do errands for your partner. (Especially if asked! Not doing what you've agreed to will smash your trust.)
 
 Take a look at the hundreds of ways your partner reaches out to you daily, asking, in effect, "Are you there for me?" Make sure you're responding in a dependable way when your partner does. Trust is built upon these tiny building blocks.
  
Be sure to offer appreciation to your partner for the little things they do for you too!

Trust me!
Allison